It started out with a decent gesture. Something that most people will not pay much attention to. A thank you text that lead to a lot of other texts and you know you will have to put a stop to it before it gets out of control. Marital affair is nothing but messy.
Infatuation – an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something.
We are both married. Although marriage is hard work, I am very much in love with my partner.
So he tells me he admires me for the choices I make and compliments me on my looks. I try very hard to keep my replies to his texts friendly and professional. I don’t deny the fact that compliments always brighten my day. And the texts eventually get a bit off topic, to the extent that I knew he had an affair before which cost him his first marriage. You can sense when the conversations get a little deep. He started to sound creepy. We are in the fitness industry and I am sure we will have to work together at some point of time. And I do not want it to be awkward. I tried to reject his offer the best I can without hurting his feelings. Well, that didn’t work.
I confided in a few people that I trusted. And of coz, I told my partner about it. Do I need to be nice to him? Is he going to help me in the future somehow? Is maintaining this friendship that important to me? Do I really need this?
But I realized that as far as men goes, you must tell them straight in the face that you are not an interested party to make them understand.
My last text to him was….
“You know what? I am going to be straightforward with you. You took me being friendly for all the wrong reasons. We should stop texting each other. We can talk in class but I guess that’s about it. I am not interested in doing this thing that you are doing. And I am not interested in you. I think you should treasure your wife and family more. I’m sorry.”
And his reply…
“Thanks for being frank! Still, I apologize for crossing the line. Will respect your decisions.”
And this was about a month ago…
Have you seen this viral image posted on facebook of a poster being pasted outside a daycare center telling parents to get off the phone and pay attention to their kids?
I understand that as parents, we have alot of things to deal with everyday. Some of us are working and we need our phones to settle urgent work emails, we have to liase with our spouses on certain things that needs to be done, catching up on world news to keep ourselves updated or simply having to score the best WWE supercard for that day. I am guilty too for spending too mich time on my gadgets.
But I think, our children want to feel valued and appreciated. We want to build a stronger relationship with each one of them. We need to keep on communicating with them to comprehend what our children are thinking so we can provide a venue for them to rant about the day. And giving them all our attention sends a very important message like “You are important to me”, “I enjoy being with you”. After all, our undivided attention may be the most valuable asset we can offer to our children.
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I met Bug 17 years ago someplace where we used to work. We started out as friends, got close, became best friends and just celebrated our 12th year wedding anniversary on New Years Eve.
Being in a relationship is hard. Being married is even harder. I’m sure we all have our own stories to share. You need a lot of trust, mutual respect, compromise, sacrifice, understanding, the willingness to work at it and stand by your partner when times gets rough. Sometimes i forget to love and accept him for who he is as I always want him to be the best version of himself.
I have come to realize that when you love someone, you really love someone. Unconditionally. A tad bit late to come to my senses but hey, its better late than never! Love will never be easy. A relationship will never be all rainbows everytime. You’ve got work for it every single day. It is about staying together when times are bad, when life is tough. It is about trying to fix it when it is broken. It is a partnership of two unique individuals who inspires the other and brings the best out of each other.
And you know what they say, the couples that are meant to be are the ones who go through everything that is meant to tear them apart and come out even stronger.